Men aren’t exactly discreet about the way they ogle women. Ladies, on the other hand, are masters of flying under the radar. The trick is knowing how to spot her subtle stares. “In about two-thirds of all encounters, it’s actually the woman who unconsciously makes the ‘first move’ by sending the guy nonverbal signals and glances,” says Tonya Reiman, author ofThe Body Language of Dating. Here are five places she's covertly checking you out. Be on your A-game in each setting, and her seduction won't be so secret anymore.
1. The Office
For starters, women can't resist guys in good suits. But more importantly, how you operate in the workplace offers her clues on what kind of guy you are off the clock, says psychologist Ginger Bercaw, who wrote From the Living Room to the Bedroom with her husband, Bill. Are you always wrapped up in some kind of office drama? Are you 5 minutes early or 5 minutes late to meetings? Do you help out your colleagues when they’re in a rough spot, and make them laugh when they’re down? Show your coworker crush that you can handle your own tasks and help others ace theirs, too.
Spot her signals: Take a peek under the conference room table. Crossed legs are par for the course at the office, but if she’s repeatedly uncrossing hers, she could be unconsciously satisfying her need for you to touch her thighs, Reiman says. Find her in the cafeteria and strike up a friendly lunch conversation.
2. The Beach
Sporting a six-pack doesn’t hurt, but above all else, the beach is a place to showcase how you like to unwind, Bercaw says. And when she’s watching you, she’s envisioning how the two of you would have fun together. Toss a Frisbee with your dog, or set up a volleyball match with your friends. Play naturally—don't show off your skills. Women can tell the difference.
Spot her signals: Keep an eye out for piercing gazes and primping, Reiman says. If she starts applying lipgloss, that's a sign she's attracted to you. Invite her to join your game and pass on your secret to the perfect serve.
3. The Bar
Even if she says, “I’m just here to hang out with my girlfriends,” her eyes are still scanning the bar for eligible bachelors. So button up your shirt and leave the gold chains at home—or just throw them out altogether. Whoever you approach, be genuine. Tell her your name right away, and explain why you're there—like how you just wrapped up a big project at work, Bercaw advises. Even if the woman checking you out is across the bar, you’ll earn points for not looking like a total skeeze, and you might just make her jealous.
Spot her signals: Keep a note of women who brush past you. If they give you a glance or touch their hair as they pass, they may be trying to get your attention, says Reiman.
4. On the Subway
Want to see what people are really like when they're alone? Take public transportation, where most travelers like to keep to themselves. Since that's the case, remember to put your most dateable self forward. “If you’re playing a video game, it sends a different message than if you’re reading a novel or self-improvement book,” Bercaw says. And while you’re on your best behavior, keep your legs together, turn your music down, and forfeit your seat to pregnant ladies. Most men don’t follow proper subway decorum, so if you do, you’ll automatically look like the most appealing guy on the train.
Spot her signals: Don’t let any eye contact go ignored. People make an effort to avoid it on the train, so if you notice her look at you, look down, and then look at you again, you’ve likely piqued her interest, Reiman says.
5. In a Bookstore
“With the rise of eBooks, just being in a bookstore can be sexy,” Bercaw says. Shopping for new reading material gives you an old-school charm while hinting at your studious side—both of which automatically put women on alert. While you're at it, take a stroll through the cooking aisle. She'll be impressed that you know your way around a kitchen.
Spot her signals: Just remember to look up from your book every now and then, or you might miss the girl lingering a few feet away. If she’s hanging around, she probably wants to chat, Reiman says.
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